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Crisses on Cording

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As a psychically aware community, often we don't take enough time and care out to make sure our basic needs are taken care of. This article covers one such basic knowledge/need that is common amongst all people, but most especially people who have experienced trauma.

In this article I will be using the term "link" to mean any spiritual semipermanent connection between people, "cording" to discuss negative connections rather than positive connections and positive connections will be called "bonds". This terminology is a weak definition: Other people will use other words for these concepts.

It is common for people to acquire a link from another person which is then used to constantly bypass filters and shields/armor. While this is not necessarily only a vulnerability to empaths and not only caused by them, it directly relates back to empathy. I call these connections "links" while "cording" refers to the act of causing or receiving unwanted, non-consensual spiritual connections.

Cording

In this case we are talking about emotional and spiritual boundaries which are being violated by a strong empathic initiative to create a semi-permanent connection. Persons who create cords are performing an act of violation, although perhaps unintentionally. Cords allow people to walk all over us, or prompt us to do things 'to be nice' to the person in question even when we're basically uncomfortable with doing the act. When a cord is being used, in all likelihood there's a boundary violation going on. That sometimes includes a psychic invasiveness. If you can't tell why someone's presence nearby bothers you, you can't put a finger on what they're doing wrong, then maybe they're attempting to connect or assert a cord.

A good deal of physical and mental illness can be traced to old links or cords that have not been properly dealt with from your own past, and one form of performing a cleansing on oneself includes removing such cords. For instance, you might have unwanted cords from your parents, old lovers or friends where the relationships have gone sour, and so on. Before taking care of one's delinquent cords, one should examine oneself closely for the variety of cords on one's person, and look with an eye to the ones *You* initiated (some are formed by both sides, as well). You will probably find that problem persons leave mulitple cords in various areas. If you were abused, you will probably find the areas of the body related to the abuse have cords from the abuser--or the chakras that are related. Examine each chakra carefully, determine whether or not the cord is serving a healthy or unhealthy end, maybe even figure out to whom it goes.

Responsibility for Cording

It is not called for to confront people about cording, because when it all boils down to it, both parties are responsible. Most links are started off during a period of goodwill and trust, as energetic connections between people. Once a single initial link is implanted, it's easier to form more connections and more likely that they will be accepted due to the influence of one person upon the other. If there is a gentle link between people (which is a normal social convention, and not always used in malevolent ways) it can be used in a persuasive or manipulative manner to urge someone to accept deeper connections.

This is not always conscious, and one usually doesn't receive cords unless you willingly accept the link in the first place; it's very difficult to attach energetic links to someone who is entirely aware and unwilling. Thus it's possible that no one is to blame when there are cords placed on someone, it is a shared responsibility of both parties to maintain the goodwill or to dissolve the bonds when the relationship no longer warrants the connection.

the necessity of links/bonds

It is quite likely that people receive energetic bonds from childhood onwards, and in fact it may not be healthy if one didn't do so from birth. Energetic links are a conduit for spiritual and emotional nurturing, similar to the umbilical cord which is used to feed the fetus in the womb. When a person receives love and nurturing from someone that they trust, it is usually possible to tell exactly where the cords are in their body. Butterflies in the stomach, a warm feeling in the heart area, and so on, can be signals that there's already an energetic bond in place. It is probably mutually formed, as well.

multiple cording and health issues

Accepting malign cords from childhood can create a habit of leaving one's defenses lowered to attempts to create malign cords. Those whom are only used to malign cords are more likely to mistake malign cords as being healthy bonds and may be reluctant to remove them even if they are causing health issues. It can create a scenario where one is maintaining multiple complex cords all at the same time, draining you of resources and energy, complicating your life, and making it very difficult to differentiate your own emotions from those of someone else.

Bonds gone Bad

A good energetic link between two people (bond) can become a cord if the relationship sours. It is recommended that one actively perform a cord removal ritual to make sure that there are no additional vulnerabilities to the person that you are no longer on good terms with. More about cord removal is below.

The biggest problem with cording for most people will be when an established link or bond sours into a malign cord. Either or both party may be sending negative energy back along the cord, or syphoning positive energies from the other party. Letting go of the cord feels like letting go of everything good about the relationship, letting go of the warm loving feelings one used to recieve through the healthy relationship bonds. If there is significant ill-will between parties after a breakup, or if the breakup itself was nasty, if either party is manipulating the other, etc. then the bonds between them should be released, whether initiated by one or both parties.

Decording Rituals & Methods

Shamanic decording

One can learn shamanic methodologies, or one can seek out a shaman. The terminology, in (Michael) Harner-Method terminology is "Shamanic Extraction". You may want to follow an extraction with a Soul Retrieval but it requires rather advanced shamans, with a higher level of training, to perform these properly. Here's an overview of an extraction, so that you can tell if the shaman performing it knows what the hell they're doing:

The shaman will have you "ground", you will probably be laying in the middle of a prepared space.
They will prepare the ritual space. They may have a live drummer or use a tape, or they may be experienced enough to be able to achieve trance states without such. The point is they will go through a non-physical preparation of the space -- whether simply expanding energies into the space, or chanting, dancing, shaking their rattle, singing, etc. During this phase, they will be calling their spirit helpers. People who are energy-sensitive should sense the increase in energy and tension, and may experience the presence of the helpers.
When ready, the shaman will examine your non-physcial body. They may run their hands through your aura, they may look at you, etc. When they find pockets of negative energies, they will remove it. Removal can be shocking. They will tug, pull, scoop, rattle, blow, suck, etc. until they have the energy bundle. Then they must relieve themself of the energy. In shamanic terms, water is the preferred mechanism of removal. They will throw the negative "gunk" into a lake, a pond, a pot or bowl of water, the sea, etc. If there is no water nearby, the shaman may hold the energy (a very very dangerous proposition) until a time that they can extract it from themself into the waters. This can make the shaman ill. If you talk to the shaman about what they are going to do during the ritual, check with them about what they plan to do with the extracted energies, and make sure it satisfies both of you that the energies will be neutralized. Water may not be the only neutralizing substance or method, and this may vary depending on the school of shamanism that the shaman you choose adheres to, or what their Totem or spirit helpers prefer or suggest. Sometimes it may be spontaneous, or dependant on the energies extracted.
The shaman then must help fill the voids that are left behind with good or neutral energies. This is where the Soul Retrieval can come in handy (in the theory that you must be missing parts of yourself if you can accept these energies into you), or they can pour neutral or positive energies into the voids. If the voids are vacant, something will fill them, and it might very well lead right back to the same cords, or cords from the same parties, being re-implanted.
The shaman will close the ritual space, thank their helpers, and come out of their trance-state, returning more fully to the physical world, and let you know when they are done, ask you how you are feeling, and probably give you some advice, or a recounting of the things they saw in the spirit world while performing the extraction (&/or retrieval).

Diane Mariechild's Method

From Mother Wit by Diane Mariechild: Removing Cords. To clear your energy and have it flowing smoothly and uninterruptedly, remove the cords. To do this, relax, deepen and protect yourself. Visualize the chakras one at a time and notice if there are any cords there. If there are and you wish to remove them, imagine that you are gently unplugging them. After you have removed all the cords, fill your chakras with light so they won't be left empty.

I have some basic agreements and disagreements with this method:

I don't think cords are restricted to the major chakras, or even to chakras at all. I think they're related to poor boundary defenses. For various reasons we leave areas of our natural defense system open to attack, most likely because the people who were supposed to teach us how to have healthy boundaries in any particular area failed to teach us properly, or someone broke the defenses down. In any case, cords may be in major chakras, or not.
I personally picture them more like snakes, but that probably arises from a shamanic way of looking at things (no offense to snakes ;) ).
Fill not only chakras but all connection points after you remove the cords. Fill them with positive healing energies. There may be lingering negative energies from the old connections, and I'll have to see if I can come up with good techniques for people to do energetic extractions on themselves, but usually a really good clensing ritual will help.

Huna Methods

There's a good article on Eyovah's site (link will be put in when it's found again) for removing cords. I found it (or something similar) on another site, the Huna ritual for releasing cords. I note that the page I found endorses "cutting" the cords, which is not something I agree with, for two reasons. First, this leaves the base of the cord attached to you, and it may be ripe for a new cord to find it and attach there. Second, it leaves a dangling conduit attached to the other party, ready to fester or attach to a new person. The nice part of the Huna ritual is the preparation, and asking the other party's Higher Self for forgiveness. This helps you feel more comfortable detaching the cord, and gives a level of awareness to the other party that you're sick of it, not going to take any more, but you're not doing it to hurt them.

Revenge Methods

Some people cut cords first, and do nasty things to the connection, before cutting or ripping the base off their end of the connection. I don't endorse it, as it is my strong opinion that both parties share responsibility for the connection, and you'd be fooling yourself if you thought that the other party is entirely to blame for the violation. I prefer for Karma to sort it all out in the end, and take care to thoroughly remove the conduit, and my end of the connections. I have no power to dissolve the connector on the other end, but if I perform the Huna ritual -- ie give notification to the other party -- at least they know on some level that there's an empty connector to take care of.

Multiples and Cording

Multiples should keep in mind that while they might have one subtle layer or energetic body that everyone shares, it's not always the case. Each person in the system might have to check themselves for cords and take appropriate steps to remove them.

Assorted notes and clips from email....i.e. braindumps

The funky thing about all of this is that I've found that one accepts one's own end of these malignant cords via improper defense of one's boundaries.

Why do I need to be concerned about this?

The problem with cording is that it is about the darker side of empathy and an exceptionally manipulative use of empathic energies.

How do I figure out if I'm corded?

I have found cords on me, what do I do?

Now that I don't have the unwanted cords, what do I do to maintain this free and clear state?

I gained a great deal of my knowledge about malign cording from my ex-husband. I believe he has attempted to use and to reassert old cords I'd removed after our breakup. I've defined my boundaries in a strong and assertive manner and thus been able to not take on any new cords from him.

Can you give me a closing paragraph?

People with empathy generally have the ability to form minor bonds -- or links/cords/whathaveyou with other persons.

Removing cords:

There are many ways to remove psychic links that are no longer desired. Some well recognized cleansing rituals and symbolic acts of release work to remove cords. One can, however, do it more directly.

If you have a good eye for aura energies, you can probably locate the cords that are left on your body by sight or feel. The easiest thing to try, for an unskilled lay person, is thinking about the person that you wish to distance yourself from and pay attention to how you feel when you think about them. Do you get any uncomfortable sensations or physical twinges? For example, does thinking about someone make your skin crawl, cause a knot in your stomach, or give you a stabbing headache? If you have a particular sensation when you think about interacting with someone, it might be a big clue to whether or not you have undesired cords from that person or not.

I have been searching and can't think of anywhere else to ask. I'm finding lots of info on cult related abuses, and some ritual abuse, but does anyone know of anything that is specificly pyschic related? I'm willing to sort it out from the ritual abuse, but I'm still thinking I may be missing something. My interest lies in the magickal bindings and using of energy to abuse. I know it naturally happens with all abuses, but I'm looking for the willful use of it. Damn, can't English it right.... Ideas anyone?

absolutely.

this is the darker side of empathy and an exceptionally manipulative use of empathic energies.

People with empathy generally have the ability to form minor bonds -- or links/cords/whathaveyou with other persons. Some have a range of personality energetics they can do this with, so they might not be able to succeed with every person they meet. Generally, they reach out an empathic 'limb' and sink a hook into the other person, thus forming something like an energetic umbilical cord from one to the other.

When done concentually and in full awareness, having a link with another person can be enjoyable enough an experience. When done without a person's knowledge or concent, or for the wrong reasons, it can bleed off their energies, feed them with negative energies, and essentially the empath becomes a leech of the other person.

Some empaths do this accidentally. Some do it fully consciously...and there's a range in between.

Some folks only shuttle good energies back & forth over such links and attempt to filter (I can talk about filters elsewhen) out bad energies, either coming from their linked partner, or going to their linked partner from themself. Some folks might purposely filter so that only negative energies get shuttled across, such as to one's enemies, or after a break up with someone. <<<<<<< =======

A good deal of physical and mental illness can be traced to old links or cords that have not been properly dealt with from your own past, and one form of performing a cleansing on oneself includes removing such cords. For instance, you might have unwanted cords from your parents, old lovers or friends where the relationships have gone sour, and so on. Before taking care of one's delinquent cords, one should examine oneself closely for the variety of cords on one's person, and look with an eye to the ones *You* are also responsible for (some are formed by both sides, as well). You will probably find that problem persons leave mulitple cords in various areas. If you were abused, you will probably find the areas of the body related to the abuse have cords from the abuser--or the chakras that are related. Examine each chakra carefully, determine whether or not the cord is serving a healthy or unhealthy end, maybe even figure out to whom it goes. >>>>>>>