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Introduction to United Front (005)

What is United Front and the United Front Boot Camp? Why did we make it?

In 2011 we started creating the United Front Boot Camp, a preliminary blog to share the ideas for our self-help book in The Crissing Link Series: United Front: Positive, proactive and collaborative self-help for people with multiple personalities.. We knew we needed to get some input and opinions on United Front before publishing it, before knowing whether our ideas would work for other people.

We've gotten some opinions, and at least some multiple systems find it useful. Now it's time to introduce it to a wider audience in the hopes of helping more people and hopefully getting more critical input.

Trigger warning: United Front isn't going to be for everyone. We wouldn't ever do it ourselves if we hadn't created it ourselves. If you want to know why, check out MMOTI Episode 004 on Conformity New. If you also have non-conformist baggage, then feel free to check out United Front and steal our ideas and re-make them for your own personal use but don't tell anyone because that might be too conformist.

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Comments:

We are slowly working through this. It's so true that most therapists are most concerned with external world or conforming your inner world which doesn't interest us at all anymore though we tried that way for many years! But this approach of 'as inside so outside" has much better results in our experience.

As for me , regarding what you said about critical feedback, it's not about this being perfect o r not perfect I don't think or even needing improvement because it's great, but just some parts of your approach don't work for us personally as a collective as well. It's impossible for you to address each collective's unique needs obviously, so I just have to pick and choose the parts that are most helpful. But we find this really helpful overall. And as you said in previous podcast, we have some triggers around conformity and we just have to find our own way of approaching things slightly differently or using different phrasing or whatever so that there is less resistance and so it is more effective for us. For one small example (but it's a huge one to us) we never use the word "rules" even though the idea of why you say they are important make sense. We just find our own way to approach it, so as you say we can frame them as guidelines or agreements or even consequences. So many options! : ) Hope that makes sense. Sorry if it was too confusing. Thanks for this resources. We will keep slowly working our way through it.

Comment by Willow on August 08, 2018, at 09:15 PM

Hi, Willow,

Thanks for the great comment.

Yeah, in our book version (rather than Boot Camp) we're calling it "Articles of Agreement" because that's what it used to be called on pirate ships and we're using a spaceship metaphor. Whatever you end up calling your agreements or guidelines, we feel it's important that everyone agrees on them as well as personally ratifying them/signing on to them. We have those who don't because they can't (not co-aware, not in the here&now). And if anyone refused to both help modify them so they COULD agree, and didn't agree — we couldn't allow them to have (easy) access to front.

The only way we can make stuff work for any/every system is to work 1:1 with everyone. : ) Every system is different and has different hang-ups and triggers and issues. But some issues can be addressed in a more generic way and YES!! by all means customize things so they work for y'all!!

We work 1:1 with people through our life coaching business. That's the best we have — or just general advice via email or social media posts. The hours and hours needed to help customize things for individual systems (and individuals within systems) just isn't possible in cookie-cutter media like podcasts, blog posts or books. ;)

Take great care of yourselves, and please feel free to comment or ask questions in the comments! Sorry about the approval delay — we've been traveling.

Crisses

Comment by Crisses on August 26, 2018, at 09:48 AM

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